In The Name of Allah..the Most Gracious and The Most Merciful... رَبَّنَا ظَلَمْنَا أَنفُسَنَا وَإِن لَّمْ تَغْفِرْ لَنَا وَتَرْحَمْنَا لَنَكُونَنَّ مِنَ الْخَاسِرِين
"Our Lord! We have wronged our own souls: If thou forgive us not and bestow not upon us Thy Mercy, we shall certainly be lost." (Quran 7:23)
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......the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) urged the one who wants to get married to look at the woman. It was narrated from al-Mugheerah ibn Shu’bah that he proposed marriage to a woman, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “Go and look at her, because that is more likely to create love between you....” (Narrated by al-Tirmizi, 1087 ; classed as hasan by al-Nasaa’i, no. 3235)
..i questioned my mom several times because i didn't believe in long distance marriage before....here were the words coming from her mouth......huh..?!
...but the reality is there...long distance marriage means couples who manage relationships although living apart..my confident grows greater and greater while looking at pakcik makcik dakwah who may overcome those challenges and perhaps hurdle an even greater obstacles..promising to myself, someday i will look for someone who live apart from me...but it is not the right time for me to have someone in my life...dakwah must come first...1st partner - dakwah...say : sorry dear..your are the 2nd..say it brothers.!..but, Rasulullah SAW advised us not to be away from the spouse..it may harm your relationship..if you believe in your partner, its ok..insyaAllah..HE knows better..PROHIBITION OF ONE" S MAKING THE PROPOSAL OF MARRIAGE WHEN IT HAS ALREADY BEEN MADE BY ONE'S BROTHER UNTIL HE PERMITS OR GIVES HER UP
FUTURE HUSBAND...your wife is your sister in Islam too!
...too often Muslims treat other people outside the home with kindness and sincerity, but then behave in a very different manner when it comes to their own spouses....husband should always remember that his wife is also another sister in Islam and that the rights and duties that apply to the general sisterhood of Islam, should also form the basis of the marital relationship....obviously, a spouse has rights beyond these, but there should be a clear understanding of the rights of brotherhood (sisterhood) and adherence to these principles
..to all husbands, I advise you to take care of your wife for they were created from ribs..Imam Bukhari has narrated in an authentic hadeeth which explained that the most crooked portion of the rib is its upper part...if we try to straighten the rib, it will break, and if we leave it, it will remain crooked, so I urge you to take care of them...and, i hope that all of you will be the kindest person to them as Rasulullah SAW said to us that among the believers who show most perfect faith are those who has the best disposition and kindest to the families..this hadeeth was narrated by Al-Imam Bukhari rahimahullah taala..live with them in kindness..and even if you dislike them..perhaps you dislike something in which Allah has place much good..believe me..
One of the sahabah asked Rasulullah SAW, which read as follows : “...What is the right of the wife? Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) is reported to have said: To feed her if you eat, clothe her if you clothe yourself, don't slap her on the face, don't be nasty to her and don't be away from her [physically] except while both of you are at the same house....”
(narrated by Imam Ahmad)
FUTURE WIVES and kak sue...
'Abdullah b. Amr reported Rasulullah SAW as saying: "...The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman..."(saheeh - Imam Muslim, Chapter 37: THE GOOD OF THIS WORLD IS THE PIOUS WOMAN, book 8, No. 3465)
Narrated Abu Hurairah:
The Prophet said, "A woman should not fast (optional fasts) except with her husband's permission if he is at home (staying with her)..."
(saheeh - Al-Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 62, No. 120)
Narrated Abu Hurairah:
The Prophet said, "If a man Invites his wife to sleep with him and she refuses to come to him, then the angels send their curses on her till morning....." (saheeh - Al-Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 62, No. 121)
Narrated Abu Hurairah:
Allah's Apostle said, "...It is not lawful for a lady to fast (Nawafil) without the permission of her husband when he is at home; and she should not allow anyone to enter his house except with his permission; and if she spends of his wealth (on charitable purposes) without being ordered by him, he will get half of the reward...."
(saheeh - Al-Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 62, Number 123)
p/s : i won't comment on this..think about it seriously if you are good muslimah and brilliant future wives..be serious on this..
conclusion...
to end my article....here i put some advices from syeikh nasiruddin al-albani to anyone who wants to get married..let us get some benefits from his meaningful words....
"....The husband should, at the time of consummating the marriage with his wife or before that, place his hand on the front part of her head, mention the name of Allah Most High, and pray for Allah's blessings. As in the statement of the Prophet : "When any of you marries a woman ... he should hold her forelock, mention Allah Most High, and pray for His blessings saying: "O Allaah, I ask You for the good in her and the good with which You have created her, and I seek refuge in You from the evil in her and the evil with which You have created her..."Dr. Nik Mohd Abduh B. Nik Mhd Nor
Faculty of Medicine - Egypt
1.30 am..
saje je letak gambar di atas..gambar di atas merupakan hari pengkebumian syeikhul Islam Al-Imam Syeikh Utsaimin yang dihadiri kira-kira LEBIH 500,000 orang Islam dari seluruh dunia..fatwa-fatwa beliau banyak juga mempengaruhi diri ana..dia juga perna menasihati para pelajar perubatan dalam ceramah beliau suatu ketika dahulu..ceramah yang menimbulkan rasa tanggungjawab kita sebagai pelajar medic..dan juga yg beraliran lain...
namun, perlu pula kita tanya pada diri..layakkah kita menjadi seperti mereka?..as-syahid hasan al-banna, as-syahid syed qutb, dan syeikh abd.aziz ibn baz, syeikh ahmad yasin dll..?
ubahlah sikap kita mulai harini..kalau malas baca quran..malas buka buku..malas mengkaji..malas ikut tarbiah..malas puasa..malas menanggung ujian..tak usah kita bermimpi menjadi seperti mereka..TAK USAH BERMIMPI DI SIANG HARI..
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kawan-kawan..patutkah saya melupuskan friendster saya?a must see video : tears of syeikh nasiruddin al-albanee rahimahullah taala...
true story from a sister....
Syeikh Nasiruddin Al-Albani
As-Syaheed Imam Hasan Al-Banna
Syeikh Ramadhan Al-Bouty
they heard the rumor of his death. Defeated at heart, they turned back on their heels, leaving him with a handful of his Companions and allowed him to be wounded. He remained steadfast at their rear calling them to persevere, while they paid no heed to anyone.
mengapa harus aku terjun dalam relung dakwah ini..mengapa beban dakwah ini tidak dipikulkan pada orang lain walaupun pada hakikatnya kita semua wajib berdakwah..Syeikh al-Allamah al-Muhaddits Abdul Muhsin al-‘Abbad al-Badr as-Salafy al-Atsary –Hafizahullah- dalam kitab beliau: "…Hendaklah dia menyibukan dirinya dengan mencari ilmu yang bermanfaat dari pada ia sibuk melakukan celaan dan tahziran, dan giat serta bersungguh-sungguh dalam mencari ilmu tersebut supaya ia mendapat faedah dan memberikan faedah, mendapat manfa’at dan bermanfa’at, maka di antara pintu kebaikan bagi seorang manusia adalah bahwa ia sibuk dengan ilmu, belajar, mengajar, berda’wah dan menulis, apabila ia mampu melakukan hal yang demikian maka hendaknya ia menjadi golongan yang membangun, dan tidak menyibukkan dirinya dengan mencela para ulama dan para penuntut ilmu dari Ahlus Sunnah serta menutup jalan yang menghubungkan untuk mengambil faedah dari mereka sehingga ia menjadi golongan penghancur, orang yang sibuk dengan celaan seperti ini, tentu ia tidak akan meninggalkan sesudahnya ilmu yang dapat memberi manfa’at, serta manusia tidak akan merasa kehilangan atas kepergiannya sebagai seorang ulama yang memberi mereka manfa’at, justeru dengan kepergiannya mereka merasa selamat dari kejahatannya.."
